Can we talk about the weird pressure we put on ourselves about cooking? That nagging guilt when you're rushing through the grocery store at 5pm with no plan, or when your ambitious meal prep goals dissolve into a Wednesday night scramble. Well, perfectionism has no place in your kitchen. Here are a few of my favorite tips and tricks straight from The Simplified Cookbook (we dive deep into each of these in a special section of the cookbook called Kitchen Notes).
The Perfect Meal is the One That Makes It to the Table
I'll start with my core philosophy: The 3/4 Rule. If a meal hits three out of these four points (minimal ingredients, easy prep, reasonably nutritious, or likely to be enjoyed), it's a win. No more pressure for every single dinner to be a masterpiece of culinary perfection. This simple rule has freed me from so much kitchen anxiety and helped me focus on what really matters. Like getting from point A (hungry) to point B (fed) the quickest.
The Art of Imperfect Cooking
Here's something revolutionary: cooking is about improvisation. No exact ingredient? No problem. Out of cheddar? Use mozzarella. Missing an herb? Skip it. Your pantry and fridge are playgrounds for culinary creativity, and some of the best meals come from happy accidents and using what you've already got.
Assembly Meals: Your New Best Friend
Let me introduce you to one of my favorite approaches: the assembly meal. These are the dinners where you're not really "cooking" so much as putting together delicious components. Think build-your-own taco bars, salad stations, or rice bowl setups. They're perfect for busy nights because everyone can customize their plate, they're easy to prep ahead (chop veggies and proteins on the weekend), and there's minimal actual cooking involved. Plus, when everyone gets to build their own dinner, you'd be amazed at how much more excited they are to eat it. I keep components for at least two assembly meals ready to go at all times - they're my secret weapon for those nights when turning on the stove feels like too much.
Your Freezer is Your Secret Weapon
The biggest game-changer in my kitchen isn't a fancy gadget—it's my freezer. It's not just storage—it's my backup plan for busy nights. Frozen vegetables, pre-made breakfast burritos (breakfast for dinner is always a win), and versatile ingredients that can become dinner in minutes. Think of it as your meal-planning insurance policy.
(P.S. If you pre-order a copy of The Simplified Cookbook, you can get a lot of fun bonuses including 5 stupid easy weeknight dinner recipes instantly! Plus a 30 day complimentary subscription to this Substack!)
Making Peace with Picky Eaters
You know what doesn't work? Forcing people to eat foods they dislike. No one has ever decided they liked a mushroom after you made them eat one. Instead, create an environment where trying new things feels fun, not stressful. Some nights, this means deconstructed dinners where everyone can customize their plate.
The Power of Kitchen Zones
This might sound obvious, but organizing your kitchen into zones has been transformative. Baking supplies in one spot, spices in another, snacks in a dedicated zone. It makes cooking more intuitive and eliminates that frustrating hunt for ingredients when you're mid-recipe.
Embrace the Weekly Rhythm
Theme nights aren't just for summer camp. Taco Tuesday, Pasta Wednesday—these aren't just cute names, they're strategic tools that eliminate decision fatigue. Pick a consistent day for meal planning and grocery shopping. The structure is surprisingly liberating.
Your Phone is Your Meal Planning Assistant
Keep running lists on your phone for grocery items and meal ideas. There's nothing worse than standing in the produce aisle, drawing a complete blank on what you need. (Please tell me I'm not the only one who forgets their entire meal plan the second they walk through those automatic doors?)
The Mood Matters More Than You Think
Here's my favorite piece of advice: Set the mood. Yes, really. Turn on music that makes you happy, dim the lights, pour a drink (wine, tea, whatever fills your cup), and give yourself permission to enjoy the process. Put your phone away, turn off the TV, and make this time your own. Some nights that means a simple pasta. Other nights it might be takeout.
Batch Cooking: Your Weekend Secret
Spend a little time on the weekend preparing staple ingredients. Cooked rice, shredded chicken, chopped vegetables—these become the building blocks of quick, effortless meals throughout the week. Think of it as setting up your own personal meal kit service. I’m going to be honest with you here. I don’t do this often. I just don’t have time on Sundays. And it’s not how I want to spend my Sundays. BUT… it works well for some people. So you do you.
Choose Your Tools Wisely
You don't need every gadget, but a few good ones make all the difference. A reliable veggie chopper, meat thermometer, and kitchen shears can transform your cooking experience. The key is selecting multipurpose tools that actually save time and reduce complexity. Shop my favorite gadgets on Amazon.
The Bottom Line
At the end of the day, cooking doesn't have to be complicated. It doesn't even have to be something you love. It just needs to work for your real life—complete with its meltdowns, forgotten ingredients, and 6 PM scrambles. The goal isn't perfection; it's feeding ourselves and our people with less stress and more joy.
Want to transform your own kitchen life? The Simplified Cookbook is available for pre-order at TheSimplifiedCookbook.com. I can't wait to hear which strategies become your go-to dinner saves.
Here's to GETTING IT ON THE TABLE, :)
Emily
P.S. Pre-order now and you'll get instant access to helpful tools like my phone-friendly shopping lists (perfect for those moments when meal planning feels impossible), a 30 day complimentary subscription to this Substack, and 5 of my favorite weeknight dinner recipes - instantly!
P.S.S. There is a phrase I repeat to myself often in the kitchen. And I didn’t start doing this until I started writing The Simplified Cookbook. “It doesn’t really matter.” Don’t have a yellow onion, only a white onion? Use it. It doesn’t really matter. Got ground pork instead of turkey? Give it a try. It doesn’t really matter. In some things, like baking, subs matter. But when it comes to cooking, it doesn’t. really. matter. Who knows, you might invent a new recipe accidentally. Perfectionism has no place in your kitchen.
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I already made the meatloaf cupcakes! (Minus the mashed potatoes and pea) My kids and husband enjoyed them and they were so easy! Thanks for sharing!